Saturday, July 31, 2010

A Taste of Two

Today J and I got the chance to see just what life would be like with another child. J's cousin is moving about an hour away so while she and her husband moved we volunteered to watch her two little girls. Mallory is 4 and Kylie is 13 months and they are the cutest, sweetest, and most well behaved children. Mallory ended up not staying with us since she had been feeling sick the day before so it was just Kylie and Ben. Although they've played together many times at different family things, this was the first time they hung out just one on one.

Being less than 6 months apart, we couldn't wait to see how they would interact. At preschool Ben does a pretty good job of sharing, but he has never really had to share his own toys at home with another kid. He ended up doing pretty well although he needed a few reminders throughout the day. Throughout the day they played with every toy we own, read books, played catch and basketball, and chased each other around the house. Ben would run after Kylie and she would stop and start laughing hysterically and then turn around and chase Ben. By the end of the day I must admit that I was pooped. We had a ton of fun, but having two is definitely more work than just one. Before today J has always said he wanted another boy. That is until Kylie walked up to him, hugged his leg, and then held her arms up to be held. That was all it took for J to say, "I want a girl." 

Up to no good.
Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Life Update

 Remember Ben's first movie I was taking him to? We saw Barnyard(well some of it) and Ben did great and lasted about an hour. The theater on the other hand, EPIC FAIL. We settled into our seats, the lights went down, Ben began to eat his popcorn and then about 10 minutes in the lights came back on and the movie stopped. Ben's response, "uh-oh."

The manager came into the theater and informed us that they had sent a large number of people to the wrong theater so they were going to bring all those people into our theater and restart the movie. Just as everyone crammed into what empty seats there were(some people had to sit on the floor) the manager came back in and told us that we all would need to move to another theater since the current one wasn't big enough. At this point I was getting irritated and Ben was tired of stilling still with no movie. 

We made the switch to the new theater and it was another 20 minutes before they restarted the movie. Needless to say I've seen the first part of Barnyard twice. Good thing it was a cute movie. Even with the mishaps, I think Ben had a great first movie experience. 

J's birthday was a few weeks ago and we ended up having a a great time with all of our friends and family. Friday night we went out to dinner with a big group of our friends.

We also celebrated at lunch with his parents and brother and his girlfriend. It was during this lunch that we decided to not take Ben out to eat anymore for awhile. He's so active and just doesn't want to sit still and it makes the whole process of going out to eat unenjoyable. I'm reminding myself it's just a phase and one day we'll be able to enjoy a hot meal at a restaurant as a family. 

My parent's wanted to take J out to eat for his birthday as well, but after the lunch we had, J decided Chuck E Cheese would be the best place to go. Such a dad choice. Not only did Ben have a blast, but J and I did too. We probably had more fun than Ben even. 

Ben loved this blow up hammer that only cost 4000 tickets which I'm sure is equivalent to $20.

On J's actual birthday we just had a small celebration at home and didn't end up going out to eat just the two of us until the following weekend. Since we had tons of cake I made a cookie cake. 
Wednesday, July 21, 2010

The Last Night

I wanted to give you all an update on Ben's last night with his ba-ba. For Ben it was like every other night and although I told him the bottles were going bye bye, he's 17 months so I'm not sure how much he understands. Tonight will be the true test on how it goes since it's his first night without one. I let him pick out some cool new sippy cups at the store yesterday so hopefully that will help with the transition.

Last night it just so happened to storm complete with thunder, lighting, wind and rain that sounded like there was a hurricane outside. My first thought was great, the storm is going to keep him from going to sleep and ruin my last bottle/rocking him to sleep experience. Thankfully he's a pretty sound sleeper and could have cared less. It must have been all that Rock Band J and I played when he was in utero.

You should have seen us last night. Looking back on it now, it seems quite comical. J came into Ben's room while I was rocking him and snapped a few pics to document the occassion. Can you tell he's our fist? Then J wanted his turn to hold Ben with the bottle even though he normally never rocks Ben to sleep. At one point I even caught a little tear from J's eye although if you asked him about it he'd deny it. At this point, I think Ben thought we had lost it.

J handed him back to me, left the room and when it was just Ben and I, I started to cry. I was crying for everything that we had been through with him the past 18 months. I was crying because I remember rocking him in that exact same chair when he was an infant. I was crying thinking about all his first milestones, when he began to sit up, crawl, walk, and talk. But mostly I cried because he's my baby, bottles or no bottle, he will always be my baby boy.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Goodbye Bottle

Today is a very sad day in our house and more for me than for Ben or J. Tonight's the last night Ben gets a bottle before bed. He's stopped taking bottles or "ba ba's" during the day for a while now, but we still kept the one before bed. His pediatrician told me a few months ago that it was time to cut that one out as well and although he's more than ready I don't know if I am. 

He's growing up so fast and taking a bottle is the last thing that we do/have that still makes him seem like our little baby(besides the diapers, but I will not be sad to see those go). Not to mention, he takes his bottle as I rock him to sleep in my arms. And of course, I'm starting to get teary-eyed as I write this. I know that I can still rock him at night, but somehow I don't think he will be as willing to let me cuddle and kiss his little forehead without that bottle. 

I'll let you know how I do he does.
Monday, July 19, 2010

Happy Birthday, J!

Happy Birthday J! 

Ben and I love you so much and can't imagine what our life would be without you. I look forwarding to spending the next 60+birthdays with you!

Saturday, July 17, 2010

All About Us

I've decided that since we are celebrating J's birthday all weekend I would do a little Q & A about the two of us.

1. What are your middle names?
Lee and Allison
For generations after generations all of the men and a few women on J's dad's side of the family all have Lee as their middle name. We decided to carry on that tradition with Ben as well.

2. How long have you been together?

3. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
A few months

4. Who asked who out?
He asked me out.

5. How old are each of you?
J is 29 and I'm 24(almost 25)

6. Did you go to the same school?
We went to the same university but not at the same time since he's older.

7. Are you from the same home town?
No, about an hour away from each other 

8. Who is the smartest?
J knows lots of random things and a lot about politics, but I would say I'm pretty smart too. We definitely compliment each other nicely. He is great at math, science, and history and I'm better with English, writing, and most certainly spelling.

9. Who majored in what?
J has a degree in engineering and minors in math and history. He is currently working on his Masters in Engineering.

I have a bachelors degree in Social Work and a bachelors degree in Human Development and Family Studies. I also finished my Masters of Social Work in May.

10. Who is the most sensitive?
Definitely me. I cry at the drop of a hat and J always tells me I'm too sensitive. 

11. Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
We've literally traveled coast to coast. San Francisco to New York. 

12. Who has the worst temper?
J, but I'm a pouter.

13. How many children do you want?
Probably one more so that Ben can have a sibling. J and I both have a sibling (he has a younger brother and I have an older sister) and we agree we want Ben to experience that. 

14. Who does the cooking?
I do.

15. Who is more social?
Definitely me. J likes hanging around his own friends and people he knows, but he is more shy when it comes to functions and people he doesn't know.

16. Who is the neat freak?
Neither of us are OCD about things but we do love a clean house. This is probably the one area that we are the most balanced in.

17. Who is the most stubborn?
I would say J, but he would probably say me-let's just say we agree to disagree.:)

18. Who wakes up earlier?
Definitely me. J loves his sleep.

19. Where was your first date?
A local restaurant in our downtown.

20. Who has the bigger family?
J. And I love it. There is always family around and they get together often.

21. Do you get flowers often?
Not often, but more than I used to. I usually get flowers for my birthday, Valentine's Day, and Mothers Day.

22. How do you spend the holidays?
We're lucky our families live really close so we split the holidays 50/50. It ends up working out great because it's like we get two of everything. Who wouldn't want two Thanksgivings?!? 

23. Who is more jealous?
Neither of us really. 

24. How long did it take to get serious?
There wasn't a specific amount of time it just kinda happened gradually.

25. Who eats more?
J. Not only does he eat more, but he can eat pretty much whatever he wants without his waistline expanding. 

26. What do you do for a living?
J owns his own business.

I just accepted a position as a Child Developmentalist working with children with autism. A lot of the job involves behavior analysis and I am in the process of getting my BCBA and becoming a Board Certified Behavior Analyst. 

27. Who does the laundry?

28. Who's better with the computer?
J, hands down. When he was little, his dad and him even built one.

29. Who drives when you are together?
Usually, J.

30. What is your song?
Maps by the Yeah Yeah Yeahs. 

New York City 2009
Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Life's Truths

I can't remember what blog I saw this on, but I found myself agreeing with almost all of these.

1. I think part of a best friend's job should be to immediately clear your computer history if you die. (And, clean your house before anyone goes in it!)

2. Nothing is worse than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.

3. I totally take back all those times when I was younger and I didn't want to nap.

4. There is great need for a font that denotes sarcasm.

5. How the heck does one fold a fitted sheet?

6. Was learning cursive really necessary?

7. MapQuest really needs to start their directions at #5. I'm pretty sure I know how to get out of my own neighborhood.

8. Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they said how the person died.

9. I can't remember the last time I wasn't at least kind of tired.

10. Bad decisions make good stories.

11. You never know when it will strike, but there often comes a moment at work when you know that you just aren't going to do anything productive for the rest of the day.

12. Can we all agree to ignore whatever comes after Blu-ray? I don't want to have to restart my collection ... Again.

13. I'm always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes to the ten-page document I swear I didn't make any changes to.

14. "Do not machine wash or tumble dry" means I will not wash it -- Ever.

15. I hate it when I just miss a call, but when I call back immediately, it rings nine times and goes to voicemail. What did you do after I didn't answer? Throw your phone out the window?

16. I hate leaving my house looking good and feeling confident, then not seeing anyone of importance the entire day. What a waste!

17. I keep some people's phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.

18. I think the freezer deserves a light as well.

19. I disagree with Kay Jewelers -- I would bet on any given Friday or Saturday night more kisses begin with beer than with Kay.

20. I wish Google Maps had an "Avoid Ghetto" routing option.

21. Sometimes I'll watch a movie I watched when I was younger, only to realize I had no idea what the heck was going on the first time I saw it.

22. I would rather try to carry ten grocery bags in each hand than take two trips to bring my groceries inside.

23. The only time I look forward to a red light is when I'm trying to finish a text. (And, they always seem to be green then!)

24. I have a hard time deciphering the difference between boredom and hunger.

25. How many times is it appropriate to say "What?" before you just nod and smile because you still didn't hear or understand a word they said?

26. I love the sense of camaraderie when an entire line of cars team up to prevent some jerk from cutting in at the front. Stay strong!

27. Shirts get dirty. Underwear gets dirty. Pants? Pants never get dirty, and you can wear them forever.

28. Is it just me or do high school kids get dumber and dumber every year?

29. There is no worse feeling than that millisecond you're sure you're going to die after leaning your chair back a little too far.

30. As a driver, I hate pedestrians. As a pedestrian, I hate drivers. (And, bikers, you are a WHOLE other story!)

31. Sometimes I look down at my watch three consecutive times and still don't know what time it is.

32. Even under ideal conditions people have trouble locating their car keys in their pocket, finding their cell phone in their hand, and Pinning the Tail on the Donkey ... But I'll bet my behind everyone can find and push the snooze button from three feet away, in about 1.7 seconds, eyes closed, first time, every time!
Monday, July 12, 2010

A Day At The Park

The weather has been cooler lately and by cooler I mean in the 80's instead of 100, but we'll take it. It still feels pretty hot with all the humidity, but at least I can be outside without instantly starting to sweat. We decided to take advantage of the weather and take Ben to a park that I use to go to when I was little. The park is beautiful and they recently updated the playground and put in all new equipment. There is also a huge lake that has lots of ducks and geese you can feed but there didn't happen to be any out the day we were there. 

Thursday, July 8, 2010


One tradition that J's grandma does every Easter is that she hides gold dollars in the Easter eggs for all the kids instead of candy. Last year Ben was too little to collect eggs, but this year he was all about finding the "gold." The other day he wanted his piggy bank down and we got out all the change. J would tell him, "bring me your gold," and Ben would go over and hand it to him and then snatch it right back.
I love his baby belly.
Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Our Fun Filled Fourth

We had a really great fourth which is why I have put off writing about it because there is so much to share!

The biggest difference between this year and last is that Ben is actually old enough to know and somewhat understand what is going on. Last year he was not not quite 6 months and although he starred at the fireworks, he could have cared less.

July 4, 2009

Our holiday started on the 3rd with a trip to our library to sign up for summer reading. Ben LOVES going to the library and always has a blast. We are really lucky to live in a town with a great library. 

He tried to eat that sticker on his shirt as soon as we got in the car. 

That night we went over to my parent's house to celebrate. We had bbq ribs, pulled pork, baked beans, potato salad, and red velvet cake and no meal's complete without ice cream. 

We waited for it to get dark and broke out the fireworks. My parent's live within  the city limits so we aren't really supposed to shoot any off, but their next door neighbor also happens to be the Chief of Police which definitely has it's benefits. My dad and J had such a fun time shooting them off while my mom and I tried to corral Ben and keep him from touching them. He was like a moth to a flame and the brighter and sparklier the firework, the more Ben wanted to touch it.
I LOVE this picture and wish the lighting was better. J was showing Ben how to do the snap dragons and he finally learned to throw them hard enough to pop. Ben really laughed when daddy threw them at mommy which of course, is not good firework safety.

It was late when we left my parents and Ben was exhausted and slept in the next morning. On the 4th we went to church and Ben did surprisingly well in the nursery and I was actually able to sit and listen to the sermon in peace. Hallelujah!

That night we went up to see J's family. Normally everyone goes to his Aunt's house, but J's dad wasn't feeling well so we decided to just go over to his parent's house and hang out there. J's brother and his girlfriend came over and he cooked the best ribs ever. Since J's parents live in the country they shoot off the big fireworks and I mean BIG. It takes about 2 min to drive through J's hometown and Ben was asleep before we even passed through it. 

One of Ben's favorite things to do is walk around and look for Jackie, J's parent's dog. He is obsessed with this dog and goes around yelling "Jackie, Jackie" and saying, woof woof.

Pretty standard picture these days. Ben tries to squirm away while the other person desperately pleads with him to hold still.

On Monday, we ran some errands and went back over to my parent's house since J had some much needed work to get done. My parent's love going to the beach club with Ben so we all went that afternoon and stayed until dinner time. As each year/holiday passes, the more it reminds me that my baby isn't really a baby any longer. Although I'm sad he's growing up so fast, it's also so much fun the to see him taking in the world. I can't imagine what next year's fourth will be like. I do know however that I will be making these...

Hope you all had a happy fourth!